I have finished the job: now, it works fine, for my need. What I did is... well, totally redesign the electrical system of the van. Scrapped (as I have already mentioned) the original battery charger, because it was melted. Now, I have scrapped also the EZ 90. Because it's made in iron and I don't like the idea of 230 V in a metal box, together with the 12 V connections.
So: totally rewired the 230 V part of the system, installing the original safety switch (10 mA ABB differential and thermal-magnetic 6 A automatic switch) in a plastic box (IP44).
A new (Victron) battery charger, which is also perfect the keep the battery in a good shape when the van is left unused for a long time in the garage. It can be left on, since it's a good iUO battery charger, but works fine as a battery maintainer (IP67).
I have scrapped all the plugs that connect to the original EZ90, switching to a different approach. A multi-pole connection system, coupled with a 6 places fuse box. On these two components I have re-wired and re-coupled with faston plugs all the users: pump, pump switch, 3 neon lights, Truma heater, fridge ventilator, the panel that shows water levels as well as battery levels.
Moreover, I have modified the fridge, to get it on only when the engine is on, adding a parallelator relais.
The battery charger and the inverter (yes, I added a 600 W inverter...) are directly connected to the battery, with a dedicated fuse on each line.
The final touch, is a Victron parallelator relais, that is microprocessor controlled, to connect engine and service batteries. The fridge is connected to the engine battery.
I need to add some order now, because the wiring is still in a provisional situation, to check if it works fine (yes, it does!!!).
I also want to add a midi fuse box at the beginning and at the end of the wire that parallels the two batteries, but I'll ask a workshop to do it: the wire is too thick, for my tools, to have a good mechanical connection: it's better to use an hydraulic clamp and it's too expensive, to buy it for 4 connections...
One extra bonus: the Victron parallelator works both ways. I.e.: when I switch the engine on, if the service battery is substantially less charge than the engine battery, it goes on. But, also, when I connect the Van to the electricity in the garage or in a camping, if the engine battery has less charge than the service battery, it goes on as well.
I'm still wondering if I ought to add a battery protect, but I didn't find the right spot to place it. It must be in a very well ventilated area, not hot, not on top of the battery, not beyond 50 cm from the positive pole of the battery. There's no space conforming to all these requirements, in the van, unfortunately...
If you have any hint or questions, feel free to ask. Bye Bye. Stefano